Issue 39 | May 25, 2025

Hello jee, kaise hai aap 

Jee, Mein kaafi time baad wapas aaya on newsletter. And yeh tab hua jab mein kisi dusre sheher mein tha and met a gentleman for the first time.

Dost ne unse Introduce karvaya and unhone bola ki inki newsletter to mein regulalrly parrta hu.

Mein hil sa gaya ki this person is not mentioning my Instagram, YouTube,Facebook ya koi aur reference and seedha Newsletter ke baare mein bola jis par mein itna active bhi nahi hu.

And then he said “Likhte kyu nahi”.

Bas tabhi soch liya, ki chahe Instagram and YT par roz 6-8 Lakh log mujhe dekhte hai par those 200 who read my newsletter are Dil ke kareeb too. So unke liye Likhna hai and sach kahu to mujhe bhi likhna bahaut accha lagta hai. Abhi bhi hazaro shaandaar kahaniya hai andar waiting to be told.

So here is a new Shuruaat.

Aur yeh Shuruaat was supposed to be sharing the “5 Regrets of my life” EK hi itna lamba likha gaya ki socha ki agle waala kabhi aur share karenge. Read this, Understand this, Digest this and dekhna ki kahi aap bhi apni zindagi mein koi Jhootha Regret lekar to nahi baithe.

Aapka Apna

Tikku Bhaiya

Jhoota Regret | 20 Years

Waise to mein regret rakhta nahi, kyunki koshish hoti hai ki aise kaam na ho.

Par then hum Insaan hi hai, agar galti nahi karenge to shayad Bhagwaan hi ban jayenge.

Reminds me of the Quote:

“Pooja bhi karta hoon, Jaap Bhi Karta hoon, Kahi devta na ban jau, Isliye paap bhi karta hoon”

Par nahi jee, waise to main maanta hu ki Bhagwaan hum sab mein hai, par then One has to have faith, belief in one Almighty God for Shukrana in Khushi and Most Importantly Ardaas in times of Dukh.

Chalo mein aapko 5 Aisi Galti batata hu apne jeewan ki, jiska shayad mujhe thora bahut regret hai.

Par then let me start with one instance jisko mein apni life ka biggest regret maanta raha, and only after 20 years I realised it was not a Galti.

Baat 1989 ki hai, I was in my Hostel BCS and 5th class mein tha. It was that class, jahaan aap na juniors mein hai na seniors mein hai.

Though you had a Separate Dormitory “Remove-C” and a Warden/Matron to take care of you when you are back in your Dorm.

Par then poora din you were out in the Jungle with your Seniors ruling that jungle.

Discipline & Self-Dependency are essential in Life, and I thank my Initial Schooling for instilling these values in me.

Par then Uss time tak Hostel mein “Spare the rod and Spoil the child” ki kahani chalti thi.

Aapne Kisi Sport mein qualify nahi kiya, lo Jee, House Captain would whack your Bum with a Hockey Stick.

Senior (3-4 Years senior) ko cross karte hue galti se aapke Haath aage hai, lo jee, Mooh par thapparr.

Dining hall mein Khaate hue shor mach raha hai, and after 3-4 Warning shaanti nahi hui, then Captain would say “Full School meet outside after Supper”.

Bas wahi shaanti ho jaati thi, and Mera to khaana bhi ruk jaata tha.

Why? Because this Means, bahar niklo, Line mein Kharre ho jaao. Captains aayenge haath mein hockey lekar and ek ek karke they will hit it hard on your ass.

Aap halka sa hile then it Hits Thora uppar ya thora niche on haddi and tab aur dard hoti thi.

Ek aur rule tha, Ki Hockey parrte hi you have to say “Sorry, Thank You”. “Sorry” kyuki, Galti ho gayi, “Thank You” kyuki aapne humko sudhara. All this even when na humne galti ki thi and na hi Hockey maar ke aapne humko kuch sikhaya ya sudhara.

I did not go to the Hostel for this. I came back home and told Papa ki mein Ab wapas Hostel nahi Jaunga. Papa ne bola, Bhejunga.

Maine bol diya bhejoge to Bhaag jaunga, Unhone Bol diya ki mein Hostel tak chorr ke aaunga to kaise bhagega.

Maine bol diya, Chorr ke aa jaoge, Humesha saath thori rahoge.

Yeh Bhaagne ka idea mujhe aya mere ek dost Aditya Baghchi se (He is no More today). He was a Shararti baccha and ek baar he ran away from school.

He was traced after 2 days, par mere dimaag mein yeh baith gaya tha ki Bhaagna Possible hai.

Papa was adamant ki Bhejunga, par then my Jhaiji (Daadi jee) Heard this and put her foot down “Mohan, khabardaar agar hun tu mere bacche nu Hostel Bhejya”.

Bas tab Yehi Delhi mein school dhoondha and jidhar admission mila le liya.

For 15 years, I blamed myself ki “Tikku tu Darr gaya, Baaki bache bhi to udhar parrte hai, Tikku. You are a weak person, Thora aur time parrta, then you would have done great for yourself”

Yes, that Regret went deep in my heart and stayed. It told me that you are a weak person and you can’t make the right decisions.

Par then kuch badla, 2012 mein Facebook par mera ek dost connect hua, let me call him Rakesh. Phone par baat hui.

I told him Bhai, I regret this decision. He stopped me. He said, “Guru (BCS mein saare mujhe Guru kehte the. Short form for Gurpreet), I regret not leaving. The School Killed my Soul and it took me 10 years to find myself, to become Confident in the person I am and get my life on track” And he said, Mein akela nahi hu, Bahut saare hai aise.

He was bullied a Lot and that took a Toll on his Personality.

Bas woh din tha I realised and told myself “Nahi Tikku Nahi, You did the right thing”.

Maine avein hi life ke 20 years bina baat ke Self Regret mein kaat diye.

And nahi, Things did not happen in one day, I was admitted to my Hostel in 1984, Class 1, 6 Saal ka baccha. Meri Dormitory, Lilithgow mein mere bed ke saath ek Class mate Rajpal ka bed tha. Nahi yeh naam Imaginary nahi, Sach hai.

He was an “Angry Young Child” He was Violent. Achanak hi Mujhe and mere jaise 3-4 baccho ko Chunti maarta tha and bahut zor ke, Mein ro parrta tha, 3-4 din tak nishaan reh jaata tha. Par I had nowhere to go, Mujhe lagta tha bas yehi life hai ab. And Kuch time mein uss 7 Saal ke Tikku ko iss Toxicity ki aadat si parr gayi thi.

Yes, Tab na yeh word “Toxic Relationship” pata tha and na hi concept. Today, I know, and someone who has gone through it very early in my life, and I refuse to be on either side of this Relationship.

Yes ab Hostels mein shayad 6-year-olds are not admitted, they start from class 5th or 6th, jab baccha thora “Samajhdaar” ho jaata hai.

Yes, Kuch logo ki majboori hogi and kuch ka High Hopes to send their children to Hostel, Par yehi kahunga, talk to them, Ask them koi Barri problem to nahi, kuch aisa chhupa to nahi rahe jo usko khul ke batana chahiye. 

Waise to yeh system har Parent ka “regular process” hona chahiye par more for those jinke bacche Kisi Hostel mein hai, Kisi bhi Age ke ho woh chahe.

Yaad Rakhna, “World’s Biggest Fire starts from a Spark and if you drop one Drop of water at the right time, then it can be stopped ussi time”

Socha tha iss article mein 5-6 Regrets likhunga apne so that mere andar se bhi bahar nikle and the reader does not make the same mistake or does not have the same regret.

Par yeh to ek hi itna lamba ho gaya.

Let me get back with more in the next Blog

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